January 19, 2026

How to Stop Attracting the Wrong Person

Expert Corner

Have you ever asked yourself Why do I keep dating jerks or mean girls? It can feel like you're continually attracted to romantic partners who are not good for you. They're critical possessive narcissists unavailable or immature. You wonder Why can't I just meet someone normal?!

It's the same old story. You're matched with a person who seems like a good catch and you think Finally! You put in a 100% giving it your all but then….they let down: they either lie lead you on ghost or even cheat. It's always the same game just a different player.

You wonder if there's something wrong with you and your hopes for a blissful union dwindles with each disappointment. If love has felt like a battlefield and you're ready to break out of toxic relationship patterns you'll gain lots of insight from Say Allo's featured guest expert Monica Parikh.

Monica is a love and relationship writer and speaker who founded the School of Love NYC a platform that teaches women and men emotional intelligence so they nurture their most important relationships for a lifetime. She weaves together relationship advice with positive psychology and spiritual truths.

In this interview with Director of Relationship Intelligence at Say Allo Seline Shenoy Monica offers answers to the following questions to help you break out of bad dating patterns:

  • What causes us to choose partners who are not good for us and what to do about it.
  • How to tell the difference between a person we're not compatible with versus someone who is just not relationship material.
  • How to spot and avoid the toxic types.

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